This post is all about making TIME.
A concept that I would like to think is simple to grasp but I am learning it is harder for some people. Specifically MEN.
Why is it so damn hard for a guy to plan ahead.. or am I just meeting guys that don't care enough about me to do so? Is it really hard to say "Hey, it would be nice to see you this week when are you available.." - and actually plan a night? Apparently it is too hard for most men. They would rather wait until the absolute last minute to extend an invite for you to come hang out. Not only does it make me feel like I was your LAST option.. but I probably already have plans, have chosen to stay home, or don't have what I'd need to make said "hanging out" work.
Especially for me.. I work downtown, but live 45 min away. Most of the things men want to do involve being downtown, or they live downtown.. or even worse.. they live the complete opposite direction from downtown 30-45 min... If I don't have plans after work I usually go home.. and by the time I go home.. it irritates me to all hell to get a call or text asking to "hang out" at 8pm or later at night. Especially when I've told these people to give me more notice.
I understand that men don't like to make plans.. that they run off the seat of their pants and do things on a "whim"..however, I would think if you REALLY liked a girl as you are trying to say you do- that you would make more effort to plan time with her.. especially if she's told you that she needs more notice.
Am I being too naive and continuing to date men like this? At what point do you just throw in the towel at the ridiculousness that is occurring and move on? How many chances do you give someone until you just say ENOUGH! I'm seriously at a loss... I know that I should not waste time on someone who doesn't make time for me.. but this seems to be a consistent battle with ALL of the men I've been meeting. What is the deal? Are there men that exist that are willing to put in the time and effort it takes to pursue a woman? Am I expecting too much?
I am a busy woman.. and I still find TIME for the things and people that are important to me... so I don't care how "busy" someone is... It is simple.. you make time for what is important to YOU... and I'm starting to realize that even though people may say you are important to them, that you really mean a lot to them, or that they really like you... Actions begin to speak louder than words... everyone is busy.. everyone has a lot on their plate.. but we ALL make TIME for what is important in our lives...and yes there are certain things in people's lives that I would never hold against them for taking time towards.. such as a Job, Family, & Kids- However, if you are going to say you are interested in me.. make TIME for me or someone else will.
Please post your thoughts, advice etc.. always glad to hear it :)
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Tick Tock....
Posted by Miss Red at 4:27 PM
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3 comments:
Why not put it in terms Men will understand? My vote is 3 strikes and you're out-a-there; it CAN be as simple as baseball. If men are hungry - they eat. If they are tired - they sleep. AND if they want to see you, they will make the time!
Nice work Lady :)
Ginger...... where in the world do you meet this losers!!??
So far, every guy you written about on here is definitely worthless! they have no manners, they're liars, and on top of that, they have no game! and even if they did, they have no Idea on how to use it. HAH!
Yeah I understand where you come from and I'm sure most people do too. But the real fact is, any guy who's not willing to go out of their way to make time for you or to even commit to something isn't worth your time.
Keep your head up my friend.
love ya :-)
Bottom line I say, get rid of all these boys and find yourself a real man, none of these people are worth your time if they aren't willing to make any time for you, or to even commit to anything with you.
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