Time and time again ladies find themselves fending off a "creeper." Well.. What exactly IS a creeper? I think it's slightly different for everyone.. but it all comes down to one simple thing: Someone who makes us feel so incredibly uncomfortable and awkward that we freeze up and don't know how to handle the situation that is taking place. Whether they approach us, or it is from a distance,.. it doesn't change the fact that we are extremely uncomfortable!
There are some guys that are just simply socially awkward.. but that doesn't make them a "creeper" - they just aren't as skilled in social situations as the rest of us. These guys typically approach women and get the "oh that's so nice of you... (and then the girl walks away)" reaction.. but are not labeled a "creeper." These type are the ones that girls feel bad for.. there is a difference; this type of guy doesn't make you feel uncomfortable.. he's just simple not your type.
Now the creeper on the other hand.. makes your skin crawl; whether they approach you or not. He could be that guy in the gym that's always watching you work out, but never talks to you... the guy at the bar that watches you all night and never approaches you.. or he does and tries to be "rico suave" and you want to vomit. He could be the guy in the grocery store that follows you around the isles and tries to strike up conversation because you are buying the same item, or the guy that somehow gets your number and will NEVER leave you alone.. even if you continue to ignore him, block him etc.. he still finds a way to contact you... THAT is a creeper!
Now.. to the tricky part... can you avoid the "creeper"??... sadly I don't think you can. They are everywhere.. and unfortunately always will be. There are just some people that DON'T GET IT! You are the CREEPERS CONQUEST and until he approaches you and gets shot down.. he won't leave you alone. (and why is it that the "creepers" always seem to have the most confidence in approaching women?)
If you find yourself in a situation with a creeper.. my best advice is to let them know they are making you uncomfortable. I think too often women are afraid to approach the "creeper"- therefor leaving this poor guy with the notion that what he is doing is OK or NORMAL. If no one tells them what they are doing is wrong.. how are they going to learn? Letting a creeper know that they are making you uncomfortable will usually result in them backing off.. and hopefully make them re-think their actions. Believe it or not.. I honestly don't think MOST of these men know their actions are giving off the "creeper" vibe.. so in order to have less creepers around us.. we need to SPEAK UP.
If actually approached by a creeper, the best advice I have is to quickly let them know that you aren't interested and if they persist use the tactic mentioned above. Letting a guy know you aren't interested or that they make you uncomfortable is an ego killer.. most will walk away and feel embarrassed (sad yes..) however, no need to waste either person's time by pretending to be nice. If they continue to persist ALWAYS have a fake name and phone# memorized... give it to them and walk away. -Never give out your real contact information to someone that weirds you out enough to get labeled a "creeper" - he doesn't deserve to know your real info.
I really think it comes down to us ladies speaking up and being blunt. These guys aren't going to comprehend that what they are doing is giving off the "creeper" vibe unless we tell them so. Will it bruise their ego? YES! - But if it saves another girl from having to go through it.. then we have accomplished something.
It obviously isn't something we can control- Creepers will always exist. But it is something we can try to prevent.. help the guy out.. SPEAK UP, and move on.
Please comment if you'd like more advice on this subject. I will do my best to assess your specific situation and give you advice on how to handle it.
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