Why So Serious?

Since when did "hooking up" mean that things were "serious" between you and that person?  I know everyone doesn't agree with it - however casual sex between two people does happen and is OK in my book;  if both parties understand that is all it is. 

If having sex with someone is something that you hold more importance to- don't you think that is something that should be expressed before you hook up with someone? I mean really.. how old are we now.. why is it so hard for people to communicate where they stand on that issue?  

And even more so, if they do hold more importance to it then why would they willingly hook up with you and then say "I never meant for us to get so serious"

First of all.. I didn't know that having sex meant we were serious, I was under the impression we were just having fun together and happened to casually hook up. (Let me just say this happened after several times of hanging out, making out, and being VERY flirty with each other)

I do give the guy credit for having good character and coming out and saying why he all the sudden became "distant" and that he hoped we could still be friends.

Of course we can still be friends... I was hoping we could be friends with benefits? - Well obviously we can't be that either.. it means we are "too serious" (but at the same time- then why did he lead me on?)

Openness, honesty, communication are KEY in any type of relationship you enter what is so hard about that?

It would cause so fewer problems if people were just upfront

Things like this that make me irritated with dating.

My Little Observations...April 2010

1. I really hate it when people leave their turn signal on- and have no intention of changing lanes or turning any time soon
2. Gyms should NEVER have the food channel on- seriously.. 
3. Don't make fun of people at the gym (especially overweight people) - at least they are AT the gym instead of being couch potatoes like 80% of the U.S. population
4. If someone is interested in you; they will make time for you- not wait until the last minute
5. You can always have MORE friends, but you can only have a handful of BEST friends
6. Spend as much time with your family as you can; you never know when they will be taken from you.
7. Laugh at yourself
8. It makes me sick when I see people stuffing their kids faces with FAST FOOD on a regular basis
9. It bugs me when someone comments on a facebook post with a comment that doesn't even apply to the post
10. It's funny that I feel like my life is ending if I forget my phone..
11. Music can always make me happy- not sure if I can say that about anything else (key word being ALWAYS)
12. It makes me sad when I see people that have worked so hard to get where they are at be LAID off.. while others who have done nothing to get where they are get to keep their jobs
13. I think that we should get 3 months of vacation time like they do over in Europe- no wonder they are so laid back and happy
14. I don't understand why people cheat
15. If you are unhappy in life- YOU are the only one that can change it
16. Guys who cannot be upfront and honest about what they are looking for in a relationship etc- bug me. It's not that hard to say it- you're not going to hurt my feelings.. I'm a big girl
17. People who give you "one word" responses when you are trying to hold a conversation with them= annoying! - I am trying to interact with you.. give me a little more to work with!
18. Sunshine seems to make everyone HAPPY!
19. Just because you don't get to where you want to be as quickly as you'd like- doesn't mean you won't make it there
20. It is exhilarating to do things by yourself- that you normally wouldn't (Travel, Movies, Going out) -Try it!
21. You can go out to the club looking sexy, be classy, and get more attention than the girls putting it all out there and being slutty- grow up girls
22. When something is bothering you - TALK about it instead of dwelling on it and letting it ruin your day
23. When someone compliments you- say "Thank you" - if you act as if you are unworthy of it- you just show your insecurities- confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can possess.
24. When you have the opportunity to catch up with old friends- DO IT
25. Does everything really happen for a reason?
26. I do not understand why people have such a hard time grasping how to properly merge into a lane while driving
27. Every restaurant should serve the "hospital ice"  (you know the little round kind that are great for chewing after your drink is gone)
28. Starting a fight at the bar is stupid and ghetto- please don't involve me in that mess
29. It annoys me when someone texts you... and you don't know the number so you ask "who is this" and they say "guess" or something stupid like that- NEWSFLASH- you text me.. I shouldn't have to guess who the heck you are
30. MAC makeup is amazing!
31. Seriously wonder if people do not own a mirror sometimes.. 
• And if they do.. do they really think they look good?
32. It really is worth spending more $$$$ for a good pair of jeans & a great pair of heels
33. Shoulder pads? I don't get them.....
34. Would you like to be treated that way?- Then don't treat me that way! (this applies to thousands of scenarios) Do unto others as you'd have done to you- it's a pretty simple concept.
35. I am not the type to judge one based on their religion- but please.. unless I ask you to tell me about your faith; please do not try to force it upon me.
36. Finds it interesting that when I travel out of Utah one of the first questions I get is "are you Mormon?" - yes there are a lot of them in Utah.. but people in other states are Mormon too.. will Utah ever lose this stigma?
37. Thinks it would be interesting to run into one of these "twins" everyone keeps telling me that I have- I wonder how much we would actually look alike if standing side by side... 
38. Wonders if I will ever be as good of a cook as my mom
39. I find it funny that the more alcohol you drink; the louder you think you need to talk
40. I LOVE 2 DANCE!!!

More to come...

All In The Family

So... 2 Fridays ago (the night Mr. Dine n Dash left me) I went and met some friends at the club. Had an amazing time, met some cute boys.. needless to say I gave out my number to some of them.

One of them asked me to lunch Saturday afternoon (We'll call him Stunna)... I accepted the invitation - and he let me know that he'd have a VIP table at Hotel that night and that I should party with him- which worked out perfectly because that's where I was going for girls night out anyway

Well.. when I finally get to his VIP table I realize that there is one of the other guys I had met the night before sitting with them (one that I also gave my number to- We'll call him Fly )- seriously.. talk about awkward! Apparently Fly is friends with Stunna's brother.. needless to say both guys were trying to kick it with me throughout the night and it didn't seem to phase either of them.. 

So last weekend I go out to SB with my friend and Stunna's brother is there.. totally hitting on me, inviting me to his party up at Harryo's - and continues to tell me how hot I am.. etc and wants to dance  - Is he for real.. I was hanging out with his brother lol

In the mean time I was over getting a drink at the bar when a guy offered to buy me a drink- so I went over and talked to him.. he was nice, a bit older and asked if I'd save him a dance.  He was pretty attractive so I told him that I would. So we are dancing and walks by Stunna's brother and they know each other. I ask him how they know each other and he said "I'm his cousin"

Seriously??!?!?!  How did I manage in a matter of 2 weekends to have 2 brothers, one of their best friends (Fly), and their cousin all wanting to get to know me and hang out?

Utah is becoming way too small of a bubble.. we need some fresh meat!

Funny Side note about Mr. Stunna-

He went home for a while but is moving back to Utah.

I had text him to see if that was still his plan and he said "yes but I need a way back out there"

I didn't respond and later got a text from him saying "so do you got that? Can you get me a ticket?"

I said "Are you asking me to pay for your plane ticket?"

He said "Yes"

I said "haha.. wow.. well I really can't afford that, sorry"

I haven't even known him more than a week and he thinks I would pay for his plane ticket? WOW

I am still talking to FlY a little- we will see where that one goes ;)

Dine n' Dash

Last Friday I went on my 4th date with whom I know refer to as Mr. Dine n' Dash.

He had paid for our 3 previous dates so I had taken it upon myself to plan and pay for this one.  We went to a very delicious (expensive) restaurant and we were having a good time.  The wine was amazing, the food was delicious, the waiter (my friend B.) was outstanding... the night was going well.

After dinner I planned for us to go see a live band at The Stateroom. We got there and I had to use the restroom REALLY bad! We then ordered some drinks and went in and watched the band.  Very good band although I can't remember the name..

Anyway.. after the opening band finished set and the main band was setting up I (as most women do when they have a lot to drink) had to use the restroom again.
I was not in there very long (at least to my knowledge), however when I came out and went to look for Mr. D n D he was not anywhere to be found.  So I went out to the lobby thinking he may have had to use the restroom too and wait.. nothing.. so then I go back into the main room to find him.. still NOTHING.

I text him "where are you"
he says "you left"
at this point I am getting irritated.. how would I leave when he drove us there! What an idiot! I couldn't believe what was going on.
I call him and make him come back and get me to take me to my car. (it took him at least 10 min.. therefore he was obviously heading home) He gives me some BS about how he was going to surprise me by pulling the car in front and waiting for me like a "gentlemen" -um okay weirdo.. I wasn't under the impression either of us were leaving.. so why in the hell would I  know to come outside and be rescued by my "prince charming"?

I told him I did not want to hear any of his lame excuses- the fact was he LEFT me on our date.. stranded.. now please take me back to my car!

Needless to say this event led to a really great night out with my best friend- and it was a great way to forget all about it.

I got back to my phone after the bar- 5 missed calls, 6 texts, and 3 voice-mails from MR. Dine n' Dash.. seriously? Does he realize he was the one that made the choice to leave me.. why should I give him the time of day!

on 3/30/10 Mr. Dine n' Dash asked if he could call and explain.. I knew that I wasn't going to be impressed with whatever it was he had to say because I have never had someone do that to me on a date.. no matter how bad the date may have been.. never..

He gives me some explanation about how he "drank too much" and thought that he could sneak off to the gas station to get a nicotine fix while I was in the bathroom (again total BS if you ask me).  He never smoked on our previous dates.. so I am not sure where this sudden "craving" came from lol.. needless to say I told him that I do not tolerate that type of behavior from ANY man and that I would not be seeing him again. 

 His stupid mistake- his loss.

Benjamin Button

Last Wednesday I went on a date with Mr. Benjamin Button.  Started off okay.. he wanted to take me to Thai food which I like so I was excited- only to find out that he took me to the place I went to lunch the day prior- and needless to say it is not Thai.. it is Asian.. there is a difference. To his disappointment (I suppose) there were only 2 Thai related items on the menu. The conversation went pretty smoothly with a few awkward pauses.. you can imagine my awkward pause after finding out that he likes to give random people on airplanes hand massages- (GROSS).

After dinner we went bowling, it was a fun time although.. on a first date wouldn't you think the guy would try harder to let the girl win - at least once? Is that asking too much?

Here comes the fun part... We went back to his place after and started to make out (after all he was cute) and it was going well until.. he started humping one of my legs... isn't that something the guys did when they were in middle school.. I mean does that really still happen at this age?
Then I felt him try to unbutton my jeans... I kindly grabbed his hand and told him that was not going to happen (after all.. it's only the first date!). So he tried to tell me that having my pants buttoned "hurt him" and it would "feel better" if the button was undone.  I again told him it wasn't happening. This time he said "ok" and we continued to make out...

About 2 minutes later he stops kissing me and returns to questioning why he cannot unbutton my jeans, that he just wants to "feel my butt" cause he's a butt man.  I told him "because I said no." He didn't like that and wanted a "better explanation" um seriously? Get real kid.. I told him that he had killed the moment.. he tells me "no you did" I say "why cause I won't unbutton my jeans? I'm just going to leave now"

I'm so sick of guys expecting to get all the goods on a first date.. what is it with that? 

Needless to say.. Mr. Benjamin Button can have fun unbuttoning someone else's jeans- cause when this redhead says no- she really means "no" and a guy with any sense of respect will honor that.

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